In the early hours of the 16th and last day of 16 days of activism against woman and child abuse, I was suddenly immersed by an idea to write a piece dedicated to the women in my life. I didn’t really identify with the general/ the social media understanding of this movement, so this brain wave started off by me wanting to write a praise piece about specific women in my life that have inspired me, purely by the way they lived their lives. But this nagging feeling of not fully understanding 16 days of Activism, drove me to start thinking of the meaning behind this 16days of activism from a woman’s point of view. What happened to these women that they had to take a STAND and say “Fuck it!”? (I use such language for dramatic emphasis, because after looking up the word “activism” Fuck this shit that’s happening or in context Fuck it is best suited) The word activism by a British dictionary is defined: as a policy of taking direct and often militant(The Fuck It) action to achieve an end, esp a political or social one. Other definitions describe activism as consistent efforts to promote change.
Remember the #Bringbackourgirls Hashtag? Remember how it started off on a serious note but eventually lost its true meaning as more people who did not care much or understand the very serious issue at hand? We now live in a world where #Hashtags are supposedly a new Uprising. #Bringbacktheyouthof76 I say!!
“We live in a world where #Hashtags are supposedly a new Uprising”
Militant action, to achieve an end!! Militant action, are words normally used when nations go to war. My basic understanding of war or militant action is when all peaceful efforts to resolve a dispute between two or more parties have failed and a more vigorous and direct action is required to reach a form of balance/peace. This is some serious shit and my cute little tweets and catchy hashtags #Isupport16days ect started to look like a fashionable activism, I’m following a trend, at least I said something. I lacked the “activism” because I never bothered to make the fight my own.
Thus began my mental, spiritual, emotional and physical (All the areas attacked) journey into understanding this war that women & children find themselves in. “Walk a mile in my shoes” approach. To achieve this I need to understand a woman, a child and a man, who best to give me insight on this than the creator of us all. Why? Because I trust no one else to give me a solution. In this world we have Men, Women & Children. When two of the three are being attacked, it either means the attacker is me(Men) and/or means I failed in my fundamental duties as man.
The Fuck It: – Is a state of mind or attitude that one adopts, and often times pushed to it by circumstances or situations where human reasoning and logic are no longer effective solutions to the situation at hand. And one has to simply say FUCK IT, and this will activate a series of auto piloted events/responses which are directed at solving this diabolical situation. And thus one cannot be held responsible for actions that take place after “The Fuck It” has been activated. But more than often that individual or group will claim responsibility for “The Fuck It” in the form of “something had to be done” OR “drastic situations call for drastic measures”
Examples of “The Fuck It” users are generally those who make history: The youth of 1976; Jesus; Martin Luther King; Mother Teresa; Malcom X; Nelson Mandela: Rosa Parks (who literally ‘took a stand’ by sitting down); EFF; Thuli Madonsela; Beyonce; Most rappers and high performance athletes.
Who are these women? And what happened?:
In her shoes
Walking in the shoes of those women who have had their voices beaten, raped and muted. Those women who have joyfully & courageously given up on their dreams of a future to passionately and vigorously fight to create one for their children. Those broken hearted women, who for the sake of their sons and daughters swallows her pain, her fear, her hopelessness, her loneliness and her undying longing for him. A man, her Adam, her Protector, her Provider, her Partner, her Prince of peace, her personification of Love – God. A man when added up with all that she needs, he will reflect the image (The Physical evidence, of God), the nature (His state of being, that needs no altering or improvement) and the characteristics (His features, His thoughts & His actions, when quality tested, match up to her father’s own character) of her helper – God. I don’t think I will never fully understand the abuse of woman & children, but I do know that the solution is in God, we are not to be trusted.
& oh hi, I’m Lunga and this is a Relfection of my Word
Artcle by Lunga V Ncala and added on by Kagiso Maloma