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Who Killed Chivalry? By Moshibudi Thatego Madia

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‘How To Be A Modern Knight’

We live in a world were interactions with the opposite sex are massive, and are no longer reserved for certain occasions. Way back in the day, men and women only interacted during courtship, as man and wife or at the ‘gentleman’s club’ making it rain. But now, we mingle everywhere, but the biggest difference between then and now is how men act when they interact with women. Very few men understand or even appreciate the art of chivalry, because if they did, their game would be on a 1000, just like our granddad’s were, who we now call ‘old school players’. Women aren’t all wooed by money; chivalry has always done the trick. I’m going to share 5 chivalrous moves, fool proof to impress for success in your dating life.

“Who killed Chivalry? they need to get their sentencing” Drake – July ft. Jhene Aiko

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The Lady Who Had A Beer Instead… Ayabonga Mguzulwa

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A week ago I went out with two male friends of mine, and as per the norm of being young and going out when the natural light is off, we were indulging in alcoholic beverages. The rather spontaneous side of me wanted to experience what was so nice in a particular beer I had seen Cape Town girls drink. The emphasis is on Cape Town girls because it was something strange for me as a Johannesburg drinking female to see girls drink beer. I tried this brand of beer out, already light headed at the time and took some pictures to share with close friends on BBM. I expected some kind of reaction, and boy did I get one. The remarks were sugar-coated remarks of disgust, which made me realise how much of society pleasing behaviour we have become accustomed to, resulting in my thoughts being swayed away from the actual beer comments. Read the rest of this entry »

 
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Posted by on March 24, 2016 in Feminism

 

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Vodka, Ice Cream & T’issues’… “What Every Women Needs To Know” By Pamela Kunene

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 “If you’re in a relationship and all you do is cry every day, you’ll need to stop and ask yourself, ‘Am I dating a human or an onion” – Unknown

I am not sure who came up with this quote but I found it hilarious the first time I read it, well not anymore. I knew that a lot of women put up with a lot crap that men put them through, but after the conversation I recently had with my friend, I got exasperated, infuriated and all sorts of emotions you can think of.

She got into a relationship with a guy she knew had a girlfriend, unfortunately she agreed to an arrangement that when the girlfriend is around she must know her place (give the guy some space to be with the main chick). That didn’t bother her much because the girlfriend was never around anyways, so technically she was the majority shareholder and the girlfriend was obviously the minority shareholder, and besides that Luther Vandross says “Love the one you are with”. Read the rest of this entry »

 
 

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I Have Decided To Not Wait For Any Man To Inject Worth In My Life… By Moshibudi Thatego Madia


TELL ME SWEET NOTHINGS BOO BOO…

I’m a hardcore romance enthusiast, from the cheesy, to the old school all the way to the new school, I’m infatuated by the theory of sparks flying and love the concept behind chemistry. Thing about being like me is that, the quest for that gag inducing romance is that, people watch movies, then use the cheesy one liners on oblivious people like me, then shit hits the fan pretty soon.

My fascination with the fairy-tale romance was ignited indeed by the fairy-tales my mom read for my sisters and I every night. I would close my eyes and see the Prince come riding on a white horse, thorough the fog to save the damsel in distress. It ignited a belief in me, that if someone really wants to be with you, they will do whatever it takes. Needless to say, I haven’t always kept to my beliefs. But because life is about coming back to yourself, to find yourself, I have not only embraced my romance-indulgence, but I’m smart about it now. Read the rest of this entry »

 
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Posted by on March 17, 2016 in Feminism, Love Wednesdays

 

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I cut My Hair!! (A brief history lesson on black women and their hair)… By Nthabiseng Tselapedi

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I cut My Hair (My Journey)

A woman who cuts her hair is about to change her life.”- Coco Chanel

And I wanted to feel free and I wasn’t, all the intellectual black consciousness stuff I knew wasn’t helping! Maybe if I use the aesthetic side of it, it would……I cut my hair to save my hair!

It still didn’t…..No enlightenment there, I just missed my weaves! And easiness that came with and if I’m honest I felt less pretty *there I said it*………….. *hold your horses sisters, this is about me and in no way a reflection on blackness!*

But it got me thinking, maybe I’m afraid of self-reflection? Maybe I have been so indoctrinated that I couldn’t see the beauty that is in me?  For I felt, with my hair cut, more make-up was needed *this from a person who barely uses make up?*

I cut my hair! But the more I sit with this hairstyle, there more I learn about myself……for I would l Read the rest of this entry »

 
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Posted by on March 16, 2016 in Feminism

 

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Why Women Are Game Changers… By Mzomuhle Msomi

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Missandei: “Valar morghulis.”
Khaleesi: “Yes. All men must die, but we are not men.”

Ever considered that women could change the game. Back in varsity there was a period at res where men went through an intense bodybuilding phase . It was simple “If you wanna get laid get sexy”. The pressure was on! This thing of conjuring females with ‘movies and wine’ in your cosy room was kaput. That movie and wine had to come with a 6 pack and biceps, if not it was tissue and vaseline for you. Read the rest of this entry »

 

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Do We Have To Pay The Price Of Traditional & Religious Unjust On Women With Economic Balance?? BY Dimo wa Moraswi Sekele…

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Free on the oppressors terms, but what about religion and tradition?? Question and more questions.

Welcome to south Africa we are living in a democratic country with a lot of opportunities and policies that govern social issues from women empowerment to BEE and women empowerment being the main focus for today. I want us to focus on empowering black sisters daughters even mothers, just the empowerment of women in south Africa is work in progress with a lot of success of course we are just a step away from celebrating the success of this intervention.

Why can’t we celebrate already? Because the foundation of this intervention is anything but solid, we have a system that says religion and traditions oppress women but uphold the very same religion. We are still living in a world of monarchy and polygamist with such practice well within the scope our constitution one is tempted to ask wasn’t it supposed to be the first thing to be dealt with?? We have to stretch the scope of empowerment from within the boardrooms (normally forced by policy) to the streets to the rural Kwa-Zulu Natal and Giyane, this means we have to un-earth all the learned beliefs about what is right and what is wrong. If women can’t be married to more than one man then why is society praising the unjust act of man marrying more than one woman? Read the rest of this entry »

 
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Posted by on October 21, 2015 in Feminism

 

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