Dating Advice That Will Boost Your Game From A No Game Entrepreneur… By Tiisetso Maloma

20 Oct


 Caption: “That Moment You Tempted To Tell Her About Your Little Brother’s Superman Pyjamas”

She said about me on her Facebook while we were on a date, paraphrasing, “On a date, he’s boring. I hate guys who can’t make conversation .This is a regrettable waste of my Sunday, the worst eveeeeer”.

I was a bore, I froze, and conversation wouldn’t come. We were connected by a mutual lady friend, Thapelo.

The date was going wrong. To avert the silence, we both fiddled with our phones. That is how I came across her status.

“She is beautiful, single and looking”, I heard; she was. She wanted a man who is doing not so bad and is ambitious. I’m ambitious. I thought I fit the profile and why not give it a try.

After the date I told my best friend Lesiba. “Don’t worry mfana, clearly she doesn’t know you well and never will”, he said. Thanks chief.

To skip the foreplay, if starter meals aren’t your thing, jump to section B.

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We got calls from customers complaining that the t-shirts they had bought from us were shrinking after washing.

It was 3 or more weeks since gabble heights Clothing came out. It was an immediate hit. We had sold a bunch of stock and produced +- 100 units.

Most people starting clothing brands buy promotional t-shirts, at around R20 a piece and screen print at about R30 a tee. And they are in business.

Me and my partner Lesiba Lekagau loved clothes, Diesel more especially. We envisioned a brand which could compete with them and company.


For 2 years I researched about making clothes: pattern cutting, fabric, stitching etc. I even travelled as far as Durban (from Joburg) as it has a lot of fabric and manufacturing factories. Our t-shirts sold at R350.

The detail of every angle was meticulously thought out. We came up with the phrase ‘gabble heights’; 2 words which were totally never used together before – we gave them a single meaning.

Our garments were tailor made with the finest burling fabric. This is the stuff high-end brands use (at that time).

We had our own font. Our very own fucken font! Shout to Bill Botes, he designed the font for us. When I tried to pay him for marvellous work he had done, he said “no”. Thanks a lot Bill; I learned a lot from you.


Since our clothes were made from scratch and were printed with suede flock (It costs over R50 per t-shirt), to make one t-shirt cost us over R100. This is more than double compared to using promo tees and screen print.

The loss was a couple of thousands. Almost all our savings were in put that order.

We discovered that our mistake was we didn’t treat the fabric before handing it over to the CMT (Cut Make Trim) we had outsourced. Treating it was supposed to be simple as putting the fabric in water overnight.

A ‘yawn’ to Lesiba and Tiisetso!

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The date situation and gabble heights Clothing incident were hurtful. But I regret none.

However, to remedy business risks such as those of gabble heights, I apply an approach which Richard Branson calls ‘protecting the downside’. Some might even call it the ‘lean business approach’.

Because I am silly; below follows a ‘going on a date’ analogy to explain the concept.

Do not argue; take it as I say it to understand.

Say you are a single guy and looking for a somewhat serious relationship.

You are in the market, browsing and surveying at a couple of opportunities (potential girlfriend). There are 3 ladies you have an interest in.

To try each, you are thinking a date.

Let’s say a date costs R500. So for 3 dates it will be R1500. You can’t take them out at once unless you are the Spinach King, I mean the Sushi King. The Sushi King says he is retired from dating an army of women (at the same damn time with their knowledge).

R1500’s weight is relative to different people. To some it’s expensive, to some not and others – fair. Some ladies seeing this are saying, “sies Tiisetso that is so cheap and insulting”.

The final goal is to get a girlfriend. Think of the dates as market exploration. If there is an option to cut down market exploration costs, it is a smart choice.

Who told you a dinner date is the best market exploration. You can do a coffee date (Did you know that? There are always options). Why immerse yourself under the pressure of being interesting and with a hefty bill?

Let’s say a coffee date will cost R150 each. So, with 3 women at separate dates of course, it is R450.


To apply the ‘lean dating approach’, rather ask each out to a coffee date. Limit your time so you are not thought of as a cheap and easily available commodity; say to them you would like to do coffee in the week for an hour or so. It is a small ask, I am sure they would oblige.

Using a lean dating approach to discover who you like better from the 3 will cost you R450 with a coffee date (versus R1500 with a dinner date).

Coffee date = R1050 saving. Booooom!!

Then after, you would know whom you like better. Then you can take that one on a R500 date.
In total, with a lean approach, it costs R450 (3 coffee dates) plus R500 (single date with the one you like better) for a dinner date. Equals R950.

If you did dinner for the first 3 dates, you would have spent another R500 or more on a second date with the one you like better. That’s like R2000 + to explore possible girlfriends (versus R950).

Even in business, don’t go all out at first.

Ambition and conventional thinking sometimes lead us to spend drastically without weighing leaner options.

Protecting your downside is lowering possible losses. Entrepreneurship is risky anyway. You are trying to minimize the risk of exploring that particular business, buy launching it and testing in different small inexpensive stages.


In the case of gabble heights, if I had to do it again, I wouldn’t print 100 t-shirts. I would do 20 just to test, and not pump almost all my savings into a venture – especially a business I am totally new to. The market will help me how to proceed.

Unlike while on dates, the beauty of business is you can go home and think about. If not, it is a casino like gamble. Maybe you are being crooked.

Actually, she as well didn’t have conversation.

There is no shame in walking away with shame, I tell myself.


Article by Tiisetso Maloma

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4 responses to “Dating Advice That Will Boost Your Game From A No Game Entrepreneur… By Tiisetso Maloma

  1. Avela Sidaki

    July 4, 2014 at 21:00

    so in essence one should not be over excitable. A healthy balance between caution and risk taking goes a long way. Thanks for the tip, sense made


  2. Tshego

    July 4, 2014 at 23:39

    I enjoyed reading this post. So sorry about your experience, but without it, this post wouldn’t have happened hahahahaha! I like your writing style. It’s honest, to the point and quite entertaining.


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